These are interesting thoughts. There's a simplicity about this, though: I've always loved sharing. I've had, and relished, the opportunity to share. I orchestrated an orgy with my girlfriend when I was 21. Even then, before going to college and all, I spoke of it as a 'congregation of sensuality'. I have video of another instance about ten years later, that case being with my SO and my buddy. Things like THE ILLUMINATUS, and THE HARRAD EXPERIMENT, THE GODMAKERS (Don Pendelton, 1971) I immediately identified with.
I would dearly love it if the world were biolgically safe. Then people would have the opportunity to work out this jealousy thing.
Now, I've typically in life had one, monogamous partner. (The number is above 50. Lots of short ones, a few long-ish ones. The above-mentioned and implied instances number a few.) And a single partner I'm in love with is enough for me. I'm not in love with my FWB because she hasn't revealed enough of her personality to me; then who knows whether I'd dig her enough to fall in love. (But also, as I've mentioned, I'm an every day cuddle and make love kind of person. I don't want to live with anyone, but I'd like to see them every/almost every day.) From what she's told me about herself, I think I would've been hot and bothered for her in her teens and twenties. Then she got gacked, and while she gave up the drugs and alcohol, she got a bit reserved. Somewhat matching her developing condition.
Perhaps a couple decades ago, she came out with this thing called Love Love, which is loving without being in love. While there's a sensual element (she's long been involved with groups of (mostly homosexual) females; as well as a regional sensuality group - though none of either sex in any circumstance has in any way penetrated her), it's mostly a social paradigm. To be intimate without having to identify or 'belong'. So she's pretty capable.
I inherently can make love without being in love. I lived it from childhood. No wonder I conceived it in my mid-20s as the basis of Funxionality: infinitely emotionally open and autonomous. Specifically to here: to be able to make love with another without having to know them.
This state of operation is the greatest challenge for a human, perhaps for a feeling entity. It is natural to me. Pragmatically speaking, it's the most sensible thing to embody.
Scifi frauds. SF illuminates.
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