>> I would have to uproot my wife, 3 kids and a pomeranian to get there.
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> Not sure.....
I wouldn't let the move be the lynch pin. You said it's a $25,000 raise... which someone here said was not a lot. If you make $50,000, thats a 50% raise! That's a lot. As opposed to a 4% cost of living raise, yeah. Even if you make $100,000 that's still a 25% raise.
>and commute five hundred miles home to see the wife and kids on weekends.
That's where I would differ. On a REALLY short term, like a few months... maximum a year, MAYBE. But don't forget, you work to support your family... you don't have a family so you can work. I've had too many friends that tried the commute thing and that was the death nail in their relationship. They always start out "Our relationship is strong, we can manage that."
What made it so great was that you used to make each other #1. Make that relationship priority #2, and guess what... your relationship isn't top priority anymore.
If it's strong, why stress it then? First you skip coming home one weekend because you had to work long, or money is tight, or whatever, and then you missed your daughter's dance recital because your flight got bumped... its a valid excuse, but you still weren't there. It all adds up.
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Mitch Martin: True love is hard to find, sometimes you think you have true love and then you catch the early flight home from San Diego and a couple of nude people jump out of your bathroom blindfolded like a goddamn magic show ready to double team your girlfriend...
If you take the job, move the family and stay together.
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