> I would guess part of the reason you are consternating over this decision is because, > in your mind, you already imagine your chances are slim at success with her > (otherwise uyou'd march on over and say "lets do this"), yet you feel like you have > limited opportunity to meet women like her, and don't want to miss out on the > opportunity should fate have allowed you success in this case. It would appear you > feel like you have a lot of eggs in this one basket. > > Which is why I ALMOST said you're not ready. > > If you ask her out under that pressure of time and sense of limited opportunity, she > will sense how much desparation is invested in that question, and THAT is your > obstacle to success. It would have almost nothing to do with your appearance, and > your personality... with women its all about attitude. > > Women can smell that insecurity a mile away. > > I'd say you are ready when you feel like she is but one egg in the basket, and make > or break is of little consequence to you, and so when you ask, it won't come with > that sense of desparation, which will make you seem more interesting to her. > > While from a comedy movie, Mike Damone's stellar five point plan for asking girls out > is right on the money. > > ATTITUDE > "The attitude dictates that you don't care whether she comes, stays, lays, or prays. > I mean whatever happens, your toes are still tappin'. Now when you got that, then you > have the attitude." > > > Damone Gives Out Dating Advice by RetroCafe > > > So... yes... you CAN ask her out on Sunday if you can shed all that insecurity and > desperation, and just knock out the ask-out question like it would be something > casually enjoyable for her... because you have no stake in the game, and it's her > gain. Attitude. And a coke with no ice.
Confidence. As someone who can be extremely prideful and arrogant, you'd think I'd have more confidence.
It's weird; she's been in the choir for at least 2 years, but I never really thought about asking her out until this year.
I've probably jinxed myself by thinking about it too much. I guess I'll find out tomorrow (fingers crossed)
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