Yes, you guys have all hit some part of the nail. I personally am fine with the language in the Back to the Future series (and the ragging in teh Bin; thank you for your astute remarks). But among our three kids, the oldest is a 10-year-old with Asperger Syndrome and doesn't exactly remember our exhortations not to repeat certain phrases in public. And the snowball effect is that our youngest kid at age 4 doesn't remember either, and tends to ape his oldest brother. So it's not just the wife.
SO... any technical help leading to the solution is still appreciated. Kthx