> > But why is some antiquated nonsense in a church the only form of commitment...
>
> Did I mention a church?
I assume most people are still getting married in churches by preachers. I watch too many movies...
> > If I ever tell a girl I want to be together for life, if
> > she doesn't believe me and wants it in legal marriage writing etc. I would probably
> > be very offended.
>
> I totally get that. I personally would equate a "life-bond" and marriage as one in
> the same, "legally" registered or no.
>
> > You're basically saying nobody can have a fully committed relationship without a
> church
>
> Where does this church reference keep coming from?
Probably my subconscious disdain for them... I retract all the church stuff (for the discussion), maybe most people don't get married in them anymore and I was wrong.
> > What do you get though, that you couldn't get?
>
> Heh. See my opening statement [If you are asking “whats in it for me” then, imho,
> you’re not ready for it.]
I'm not saying that I'm even trying to become ready for it so you aren't understanding my intentions or question I guess. What I'm saying I want to understand other people's decisions and thoughts. It doesn't matter what I'm ready to do - all I'm asking is to be educated about how other people are. I know myself fine.
> > What does the wedding change?
>
> It's just a public ceremony to openly acknowledge the relationship. It is clearly
> important to people. That's why the LGBT community fights for this right too. You
> don't have to be public about it, but you should have the right to if the couple so
> chooses.
I want to know specifically why it is important to people, the reasons so I can understand other people better. For LGBTQ it's probably about law equality (partially) and the other part, whatever it is is probably the same reasons for straight people, but what are those reasons exactly that I'm asking that someone list out for me. I don't want "it's important". I want "it's important because x and x and x".
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