So you already have a connection! J/K. Half kidding. But yeah that can be a problem, not to mention the money it costs. And related, dulling your motivation for certain things, can happen. But you're already married and I assume you have a good job. I think it might be time for you young Padawan learner. I hear ya though. It can kinda make a lot of things more fun and a lot of things you'd rather not do on it, and like broheim has shown, hard for a lot of people to find a balance. Well it's hard as shit to balance alcohol, too. Anyway if you try something else it should be weed as described in very small doses to start.